When Is A Divorce Not A Divorce?

I am no expert but my article isn’t rocket science either!

It’s just my opinion and mine only so remember this, God has given me some insight to divorce as I am divorced!

I write this in disarray and write this in pain, as church’s and Christians are way out of line letting/permitting some couples to divorce over hurting of each others feelings and emotions!

I have a good friend who said to me as I was separated from my wife “We will never do that me and my girl.” But the sad news is they divorced over him watching too much TV and having a distorted over imaginative sex drive. Well they got divorced just after a month or so being married. A year latter!

So this is how divorce upsets God.

Two people telling God that they love each other and then saying to God” sorry God I made a mistake or you should of told me that the other partner was not suited to me “

What went wrong from love to hate in this I mean especially emotionless? Especially in the form of a divided love or love being pushed in as lust form!

The bible says not to put lust in a wedding or marriage.

I am witness and guilty of such a crime

So when does it become a crime?

How does it being legally compromising a marriage?

Guys a sex organ is not the decider of whom you should choose as a wife.

Nor girls a man who can fix your kitchen cupboard is not a candidate for stability!

You know books have been written on what kind of relationship is “the norm” or what is not.

But they lack spiritual content and Sigmund fraud as I call him; he got booed of the stage when he said that people are sexual beings and then went on to prove it.

The term comes from a Greek word spirit being or the term emotion elating to the term psychology!

But does not explain the social or ethical and quarantines the Holy Spirit's promptings And does damage to what God says about love in the true sense!

Love is faithfully devoted to the other person’s wellbeing and making the other person not only feel comfy but knows that they are loved! If you look at two old people who are in a lounge room not saying a word in front of a TV and one knitting and the other reading a book and they know that the other person loves and cares for them and will not have to prove it by buying expensive gifts or doing anything to prove it!

“Love is faithful and knows no wrong.”

Well if that is the case why do we as humans in any part kid ourselves. Basically we are all wanton and self indulgent and not only westernized but over proud of our selves. We think the other person should serve me the one in need!

Well?

It is the case and we need to put the other person in the picture or love in perspective you don’t need them and they don’t need you. We need to be whole as a single person and marry another whole single person, not find our wholeness as a couple as we are lacking when we are single. If you are not stable as a single person you are not going to be stable as a married one, you are simply going to have a co-dependent marriage.

One time when my wife went out for the day for the first time away from me for a day when she got home I said all you care about is you.

Well I was really wrong and out of line and out of place!

Any way this is just the past but it stays in my memory and I see it clearly and better than when it first happened all those twelve years ago!

The next time it happened I went out and had a blast with my friend as well and it was good!

You know I have that mentality today about the woman I love now if I can tell you she is nice and sweet but I am not going to marry her if I can’t live without her!

In this I mean she is not the main reason for me to want to marry her I want a woman who loves God way more than me as this woman must do just that and do it effectively and I must do that to!

I must still go out and evangelize and worship God and tell people about Jesus and not put the main focus on her but Put God in Number one place of my life that is how we should be doing it!

Even if you are not a Christian it is very important to at least do what you were doing before you met the person that you loved!

Like if you play sport don’t give up all sport just to please him or her but include the partner in it as well

My wife used to love watching me ride motor bike and she thought me as her hero and she was proud of me as I was a good motor enthusiast.

And if I get the chance to do so again I would love to ride a bike again!

I don’t know if you can remarry again after you get divorced as I am in a place of protection and grace as I won’t bother me if I stayed single and just hung out as a big kid.

Many people get married a lot over and over again like it is their religion like reincarnation hoping this time they got it right but the Bible calls it adultery for both Sadly their hurt little inner child or ego intention to be like the guys or girls in the circle but if they knew were going in to a burning house would you go and follow knowing that you would end up dead?

Well if the answer is no why do you lower your agenda and make your self an apostate to the Lord and to the written word of God?

I read in the Bible that one can divorce for being unfaithful but no where does it say you can re-marry without it being adultery to your former partner.

Ask your self this if you loved your partner so much why would you do this to them and making them vulnerable enough to sin and get married again and devoid the covenant with you and God through Jesus blood shed for you at Calvary?

Anyway I am asking one this if you loved the person so much why would you fall out of love with them?

This is no IQ test but a heart felt cry no don’t end up like the heathen who have knowledge and don’t obey it!

Read John 3 the whole chapter in the Bible in a King James Bible if possible and see what it says for your self .

I will not ramble on but just love you in Christ may God bless you!

Kind regards from Yianni

Yianni heads up an online prayer site where strangers can request a free prayer via email or a personal prophecy from God and he can be also contacted at http://www.online-prayer.net